For some women, pregnancy is not just occasionally scary, it is terrifying.
Not every woman will see childbirth as a joyous experience.
Breast isn't always best.
Past physical and sexual abuse leaves a lasting impact on a woman's life. But by understanding not only the depth of that impact and how that impact can be mitigated, you can not only help a survivor heal but also improve the lives of families and the community in which you live.
All you need is a willing heart.
Earlier this summer I conducted a brief survey for survivors of sexual trauma; either as an adult or as a child. In the trainings that I do, I stress a trauma-informed approach so I thought sharing the survey here might be helpful for those who need to ask about possible abuse.
Do things need to change? Great! You can do it.
Starting September 13, I will lead a peer-led support group for female-identified sexual abuse survivors. It is open to any sexual trauma survivor. That includes incest survivors, rape survivors, child sexual abuse survivors and survivors of sexual violence within and intimate partner relationship.
Regardless of our age, comfort objects serve an important purpose: they remind us of what is safe and familiar in uncertain situations. The skill of being able to generate feelings of safety can be especially important for trauma survivors who can be re-triggered at vulnerable times.
I started a survey for sexual abuse survivors (whether as an adult or a child) that asks about 10 questions. The information will be used to help professionals better understand how past abuse affects later health and wellness. Can you help?
School is out but kids are still learning.
Since everyone is a trauma survivor, it behooves professionals who work with the public to change their approach when it comes to gathering information about their clients. Changing systems, programs or approaches, however, can feel overwhelming but it doesn't have to. Start simple.
In a world where we are less and less connected to others, it feels increasingly important to me to hear other women's small wins. Most of us no longer have that daily contact where we might otherwise be inspired by someone else's big news. But that's news I want in my life. What about you?
Seth Godin said in a webinar that I was on recently, "you can't get better at ___ (the thing you're working on), if you say "yes" to that (the thing you were asked about.)". Your "yes" gets in the way of doing what you really want.
Emotional abuse can look many different ways. But it always feels wrong. Emotional abuse is a series of actions, micro-aggressions almost, that an abuser says or does to maintain power and control over someone else. Does this sound familiar?